The Female Factor Project – Tanema

I have to be honest. I find Tanema totally awesome. Her laid back, let life happen approach to parenting is REALLY refreshing. While I was fussing around trying to find a place in the grass that was RED ANT FREE …..she was brushing off my concerns casually telling me she wasn’t concerned at all because they camp and the kids would move if they got bit.   She was so laid back and easy to work with I really did not want to leave. Don’t even get me started on her kids, because they ROCK. Contessa gifted me for an HOUR with the most expressive faces Ive seen on a baby in a long time, and her sons just LISTENED. ( Insert TOTAL shocked face here ) . As any child photographer can tell you, it is a rare shoot when three young kids come together like this and it all just flows without any tantrums, meltdowns or mishaps. Momma is doing everything right with these kids and I enjoyed every second spent with them. Please scroll down, take some time and get to Know the amazing Tanema and her beautiful children.

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WHAT DO YOU DO FOR WORK ? WHAT ARE YOU TRAINED IN ?

“I am a small business owner. I make tutus for little girls.
You can find me at https://www.facebook.com/tutusbytanema.
I also have degrees in Early Childhood development and Massage Therapy”

WHAT FEMALE INSPIRES YOU NOW, AND BACK WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD ?

“Both my mothers inspire me, now and as a child. I grew up with gay parents who taught me to go for what I believe in and do whatever I love. I grew up loving all no matter what. My mom’s have always pushed me to do what I love no matter what stands in the way. I wasn’t an easy teenanger growing up with bipolar,ocd, and add. I thank them daily for everything they have done for me. ”

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WHAT IS YOUR GREATEST FEAR ?

“My biggest fear is failing,something happening to my babies and my cancer coming back. ”

WHAT IS YOUR GREATEST DREAM ?

“My greatest dream is watching my business grow, and watching my children grow up happy and turn into well rounded adults and be as happy as i am. ”

WHAT IS YOUR GREATEST ACCOMPLISHMENT?

“My greatest accomplishment is being able to stay at home with my three children and run my business and being a assistant cub master to my oldest sons pack. I never thought i would be able to juggle everything and still enjoy all the little things, its the greatest feeling in the world.”

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WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST ABOUT YOUR CHILDREN ? TELL US ABOUT THEM !

” There is so much I love about my babies I’ll start with Kyle first he is my oldest he will be 7 on June 7th. I am so proud of him he is in advanced classes, he is our little bookworm he has a adult sense humor, very out going, the greatest big brother to his siblings I couldn’t be more proud to have him as our son. Tyler is our middle son he just turned 4 on April 18. He is our wild child lol. He is shy until he gets to know someone, looks up to his older brother and wants to do everything he does. He is clown and tries to make everyone laugh around him. He is also very smart. We are very proud of him. And our youngest Contessa she will be 1 on August 22. She lights up a room, she is very calm but also a very big diva already and very spoiled just like her brothers. She already loves her brothers to death and loves to be around them. We cant wait to see what a beautiful women she will turn into. All of them are my world I do anything I can for them and so much more. All three of them have so much love to give.”

HOW DO YOU HOPE TO RAISE YOUR CHILDREN DIFFERENTLY ? WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO THE SAME ?

“We are already raising them differently than the way were raised. We don’t believe in spanking, we do warnings and time outs. We are raising them to tell us the truth to begin with and you won’t get in trouble, but if you lie you get in trouble. We stop and listen to what they have to say, they have a say in every decision that is made. We always give hugs and kisses before any of leave and say I love you cause you never know if it will be the last.”

WHAT DO YOU WISH PEOPLE KNEW ABOUT YOU ?

“What I wish people knew about me is I have been married to my husband for 9 yrs this July and we have been together for 12 yrs. I have come very far from 12 yrs ago learning to deal with my bioplar, ocd, and add without meds and having a scare of cervical cancer last yr after i had my baby girl hoping it never comes back. Everyday is new adventure for my family as we are always on the go and learning new things. Standing up for my mom’s there is nothing wrong with being gay they are just as great parents as a husband and wife and deserve to be just as happy as everyone else. I am a very big people person I am shy at first but you cant shut me up once I get to know you.I am still breastfeeding, co-sleeping and baby wearing my youngest. ”

WHAT IS THE BEST ADVICE YOU COULD GIVE TO YOUNG FEMALES ?

“My greatest advice to young females today are don’t give up even if it seems like its too much. Everyone has hurdles and you can overcome them. Talk to someone you trust.  Always look at your child in the eyes and tell them you love them that is the greatest gift you can give them they don’t stay little for long. Remember to love yourself and do what makes your children and yourself happy. Don’t be afraid to stand up for what you believe in no matter what the cause is.”

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TELL US ABOUT RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS IN YOUR LIFE ?

“Oh I have so many random acts of kindness Ill start with the two someone has done for me. The first one was I was at a checkout line at a grocery store and the gentlemen behind me paid for my groceries. I was in shock and started crying cause at the time I really didnt have enough money to pay for it all. The second one I was pregnant with Kyle and a lady stopped me outside of cvs and gave me a gift card for $40 dollars I cant remember where it was for but my husband and i couldnt stop thanking her it was a true blessing at the time. The random acts we have done is every thanksgiving we buy a needy family a entire thanksgiving meal everything they would need to have a wonderful thanksgiving, we buy extra food at the store if see a homeless person sitting outside and give it to them. We are always helping other people we have huge hearts and dont let them go to waste we have let single mothers with kids stay with us till they can get back on their feet. We always do what we can when we can.”
 
WHAT IS YOUR STATEMENT ?

” Be true to yourself ”

Tanema …what can I say. I hope your parenting style rubs off on me some more because I truly believe you have got it right. Thank you so much for being brave enough to speak up about being raised by two mothers and what a wonderful job they did.  I cant wait to see you guys again for the boys shoot !

PLEASE LEAVE TANEMA YOUR THOUGHTS AND COMMENTS BELOW  !

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Nicole - May 24, 2013 - 2:10 am

Beautiful pictures, beautiful profile on you and your family! love it!

Tanema Barnes - May 24, 2013 - 2:47 am

Thank you!

Jennifer - May 24, 2013 - 4:34 am

Awesome pics, I’m so glad to know the Barnes family!

Jennifer Stroble - May 24, 2013 - 8:23 pm

Tanema, these images are wonderful. Susan did an amazing job at capturing you and your family. I learned some new things about you that I hadn’t known from our many play dates. That’s awesome. :)

adreana Barnes - May 24, 2013 - 10:11 pm

awwe looking at these pictures makes me miss you guys soooo much!!! I love you my beautiful sister inlaw, Adorable neice and awesome nephews!!!

josh barnes - May 24, 2013 - 11:11 pm

you truly are a great mother and im so lucky to have you as my wife

Andrea Zajc - May 28, 2013 - 8:06 pm

Tanema and I haven’t been friends for long yet we have been sisters for a life time. I feel so close to her even though we are states away from each other. She birthed 3 amazing children and everyone can tell how much she loves them. I even had the honor and joy of being with her in the birthing room for the miracle of her latest baby Contessa. The pictures of you are amazingly beautiful and I am so happy to be apart of your family.

Erika - May 29, 2013 - 3:12 am

Beautiful!!:-)

Sarah Smith - June 11, 2013 - 3:46 pm

Love these gorgeous picturesa!

Sarah Smith - June 11, 2013 - 4:19 pm

These pictures are absolutely gorgeous! What a wonderful way to celebrate and empower a remarkable young woman and her precious children :)

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